“Distance means so little when someone means so much.”
That quote should resonate within the mind and hearts of anyone currently involved in a long-term relationship. Even if you are thinking about getting involved in one, that quote will save you a great deal of time, which would have been squandered with doubts and uncertainties.
This quote should replace the frequent mentality that “long distance relationships do not work” or even “long distance relationships are doomed from the start.”
With that sort of misconception, it’s no wonder why so many individuals seem to avoid this particular sort of connection all together. The thing is that the large number of failed long distance relationships seems to eclipse the growing number of long distance bonds which triumph.
The key to making certain your long distance relationship succeeds is simple: hard work.
It takes hard work and consistent effort to maintain the flame of a long-distance relationship burning brightly.
Yes, it’s critical to make regular visits so as to find each other whenever possible without making another person feel smothered. However, that does not mean that you’re off-the-clock when it comes to working on your relationship in between those face-to-face visits.
EVERYBODY NEEDS REASSURANCE
Your significant other is looking for the exact same thing which you are – reassurance. Reassurance that you still feel strongly about them. Reassurance that you’re just as involved in making the relationship work as they are right now. Reassurance that you are going to do whatever you can to make it work – no matter the odds that claim it’s improbable.
Consequently, you will need to spend the time, energy and hard work required to provide that reassurance on all levels. Why? Three reasons.
1) Law of Reciprocity: Should you do it, chances are that he/she will reciprocate your attempts to supply you with exactly the identical level of reassurance.
2) Value, Value, Value: Who doesn’t need to feel valued and appreciated? Putting in the time and effort to make your relationship work – regardless of the physical distance that separates you two – will add value to your own bond and create your significant other feel valued in the same time. At the end of the day, isn’t that what you need?
3) True Love is Cultivated over Time: A long distance relationship shares a major similarity with a short-distance connection: true love requires time to develop. An unknown person once said that “true love does not mean being inseparable; it means being separated and nothing changes.” This essentially goes back to reassurance – making sure you and your significant other remain on the same page.
Although a large number of these bonds crash and burn, there are still quite a few that are still flying high in the clouds of love. The difference between crashing and flying is amount of hard work that you put into keeping your connection from the ground.