Does Your Soul Choose When To Die?

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Do we decide prior to reincarnating when we’ll die?

We decide our entire live before we reincarnate, but after we reenter the physical realm we have an opportunity to change our life plan and what we want to accomplish.

We always have free will and we can and do alter our life plan frequently, by doing so we activate alternative lives and parallel universes and our entire perspective changes.

We then follow that path until we reach our goals or once more change what we want to see and do. Either way, we’re continuously making choices that impact our future or a future life.

That is why often times a psychic reading is wrong, nothing is written in concrete. The psychic is reading what is our most likely strategy.

Once we change our thoughts and follow another route, our whole future changes, and to some extent the future of those around us.

Therefore, you can change when you wish to leave your life. When souls opt to leave their physical lives, they take all their energy and their bodies become dead.

Then they leave the physical plane of the life once and for all, entering the ethereal plane of the planet. When a soul passes, it seems lighter as it is leaving all the feelings from physical life behind.

When someone dies, the memories of absolutely everything that human being lived and experienced, the memories which are stored within the human mind, are taken by the soul and stored in the Akashic memories, in the Tree of Life.

The memories belong to their spirit, their higher or higher self. The spirit has access to those memories anytime it wants.

Additionally, that soul will have the ability to get that life’s memories in its next life when it does a past life regression, or as is the case many times, the soul has spontaneous past life recall which can trigger a desire and curiosity to know more of its own past.

Many times this is the spirits way of becoming aware of memories from the past and create awareness of former existences both on planet earth and elsewhere about the cosmos.

Regardless of how it comes about, or if it comes about, these situations are always due to the souls free will to decide to experience or not encounter a particular experience.

Can The Distance Work In A Relationship?

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“Distance means so little when someone means so much.”

That quote should resonate within the mind and hearts of anyone currently involved in a long-term relationship. Even if you are thinking about getting involved in one, that quote will save you a great deal of time, which would have been squandered with doubts and uncertainties.

This quote should replace the frequent mentality that “long distance relationships do not work” or even “long distance relationships are doomed from the start.”

With that sort of misconception, it’s no wonder why so many individuals seem to avoid this particular sort of connection all together. The thing is that the large number of failed long distance relationships seems to eclipse the growing number of long distance bonds which triumph.

The key to making certain your long distance relationship succeeds is simple: hard work.

It takes hard work and consistent effort to maintain the flame of a long-distance relationship burning brightly.

Yes, it’s critical to make regular visits so as to find each other whenever possible without making another person feel smothered. However, that does not mean that you’re off-the-clock when it comes to working on your relationship in between those face-to-face visits.

EVERYBODY NEEDS REASSURANCE

Your significant other is looking for the exact same thing which you are – reassurance. Reassurance that you still feel strongly about them. Reassurance that you’re just as involved in making the relationship work as they are right now. Reassurance that you are going to do whatever you can to make it work – no matter the odds that claim it’s improbable.

Consequently, you will need to spend the time, energy and hard work required to provide that reassurance on all levels. Why? Three reasons.

1) Law of Reciprocity: Should you do it, chances are that he/she will reciprocate your attempts to supply you with exactly the identical level of reassurance.

2) Value, Value, Value: Who doesn’t need to feel valued and appreciated? Putting in the time and effort to make your relationship work – regardless of the physical distance that separates you two – will add value to your own bond and create your significant other feel valued in the same time. At the end of the day, isn’t that what you need?

3) True Love is Cultivated over Time: A long distance relationship shares a major similarity with a short-distance connection: true love requires time to develop. An unknown person once said that “true love does not mean being inseparable; it means being separated and nothing changes.” This essentially goes back to reassurance – making sure you and your significant other remain on the same page.

Although a large number of these bonds crash and burn, there are still quite a few that are still flying high in the clouds of love. The difference between crashing and flying is amount of hard work that you put into keeping your connection from the ground.

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Cutesy/affectionate nicknames, also known as pet names, are often used in a connection to show intimacy. They are equally important in both a normal relationship and long distance relationship.

Calling your mate by a cutesy nickname may annoy other people, but don’t let it disturb you. Researchers say it’s a sign that the two of you have a very healthy and strong connection.

Benefits

A higher degree of Intimacy – I believe this is very self-explanatory. Calling pet names as opposed to real name sounds nearer among you because they’re the names which just two of you can use to deal with each other. It creates a sense of uniqueness.

Creates A Boundary/Exclusiveness – That’s according to the publication How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It. It’s a way to identify the relationship as exclusive because when people around you overhear your cutesy dialog, they know you are committed to one another. I know this type of situation does not really happen frequently in the context of a long distance relationship, but two of you can still feel the sense of exclusiveness. Once you meet up physically with each other after some time, the feeling will only explode and two of you will be restricted in your two-person world. When I finally had a chance to meet up with my girlfriend after a long time, we could not bother what is happening around us. We concentrate on each other totally. This doesn’t really happen due to pet names but pet names will make it sweeter definitely. The feeling of exclusiveness is particularly important once you are calling or texting your remote lover when two of you are apart.

Signs of Alert – When two of you start to call each other using pet names, it’s a clear sign when she calls you by your true name. It can mean two things. Firstly, it is because she is mad at you about something. Secondly, she’s joking and playing around with you. You’ll have to decode it from the tone and context yourself.
Tips

About The Awkwardness – I know it is a bit awkward and you might feel shy when you’re calling your spouse by the new nickname. Don’t worry, it’s perfectly normal and I’ve experienced it before as well. It is like the awkwardness if you want to say “I love you” for the first few times. Just say it as normally as you can and continue it for a few days. You both will become accustomed to it. Afterwards, you may feel weird if you don’t use the nickname abruptly.

Address Your Lover At the Start of Every Conversation – Bad example: “What are you doing?” Great example: “Baby, what do you do?” Call them in pet names before any sentence makes plenty of difference. It sounds a lot more intimate. Do not call pet names that he or she does not like. The advice is that you could start calling your lover some pet names you prefer. It will generate more conversations on this. It’s clear from the conversation if he or she enjoys the pet name. If you feel your spouse doesn’t like it, simply just try another one next time. Another technique is to ask your spouse directly saying that whether you can use this pet on her or him. Usually, your spouse will like whatever names you call them. Just… Do not be shy!

How To Really Apologize

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When you are the person who has made a significant mistake or gone back on your word, it can be really challenging to face it and say “Yes, I screwed up, but now I really want to proceed. How do I make it up to you?” Because the truth is that we would like to go on like nothing happened. We want to be forgiven without needing to request it. We want the sun to smile down and say “Of course it’s okay, you don’t need to say anything, we will all just pretend like it never happened.” But it did happen, we did screw up, and the only way we are going to have the ability to move forward is by owning our error. Ouch, I know it hurts, but think of how free you will feel once you fess up and apologize rather than harboring guilt as you walk through your life.

The one that you hurt or offended deserves a sincere apology. I am not talking about a general “sorry for everything” but rather, a particular sincere apology. Apologizing can be among the hardest things we ever have to do. Most of us are overly attached to our self, and feel that the act of apologizing somehow jeopardizes it. Apologizing can be extremely difficult, but it gets easier with practice. Eventually you can get to the point where you instantly recognize when you have hurt someone, and you can apologize quickly and sincerely.

Have you ever received an apology which felt more like an accusation that you were being too sensitive? Or have you offered a half-hearted apology to someone when you felt they didn’t deserve it? Apologizing is an art and a true apology must consist of admitting responsibility for an offensive action and addressing the specific transgression.

When we were kids and our parents left us apologize, we had grunt out a forced “sorry.” That was good enough so we heard that that’s all an apology should be. We had been taught wrong. As adults, we need to master the art of this sincere apology. It doesn’t matter if we are apologizing to a romantic partner, a friend, or family member. No one wants to be on the receiving end of either no apology, or an insincere apology intended only to placate and smooth things over. Apologies are the tool to admit your wrong doing, the effects of what you did to another, and promote healing for the one you hurt and the connection.

It can be tricky to swallow your pride and admit that you’re wrong and to request forgiveness but that is exactly what you will need to do. Especially if you value the relationship with the person you’ve offended or hurt.

A sincere apology is not about you so don’t make it about you. Leave your reasons, justifications, or explanations about why you did what you did out of it. You can always explain yourself afterwards but for the purpose of a truly curing apology, keep your focus on the injured person and acknowledging the impact that they’ve suffered.

Be specific. Prevent a blanket apology of “I’m sorry for everything.” Instead, offer an apology of what you specifically did such as “I’m sorry for lying to you.” When you are specific in your apology, the recipient can understand that you acknowledge the actions that hurt or upset them.

There are several important things to keep in mind in giving a true apology. I am going to list them for you. As you browse through them, think back to when you’ve apologized. Have you validated the person you’ve injured or minimized and defended yourself instead?

1. Do not use the apology as an chance to point out exactly what the other person did wrong. If you go about it that way, you’re missing the point completely. And it will just make another person even angrier.

2. Before deciding the best way to make the apology, consider exactly what the mistake was, the effect on the other person and what you learned from the experience. How are you going to be different in the future?

3. Consider in what way the other person was hurt and what reparation has to be made. Was there physical damage or were another person’s feelings hurt? Are others affected by the mistake? Is this the first time such a thing has happened or is it a repeat?

4. Talk directly to the person you hurt. Find a time when he or she’s willing to listen. Explain that you’re sorry for what happened and that you understand why he or she’s angry/sad/disappointed. Give them time to express her feelings. Don’t interrupt! You made the mistake and he or she deserves to tell you the impact. Ask if they can forgive you. Be prepared if they can’t.

5. If the person is a relative or someone you’re close to, a hug is a good way to complete the apology.

6. Apologies should never, ever take the kind of “I’m sorry nothing I do is ever good enough” or “I’m sorry you’re mad about it.”

I will give you a few steps to follow in crafting your own true apology. Some of these might be a replica of the keys discussed above, but they are significant and have to be reiterated.

STEPS TO AN EFFECTIVE APOLOGY

Ok, so do you apologize effectively? It’s easy, right? You say, “I am sorry.” What’s there? Well, that is an apology, accurate. A good one for, say, stepping on someone’s toe, or forgetting to pick up the milk in the store. But what I’m talking about is how to apologize effectively about more complicated things, so that the other person actually hears your regret and you can both do what you can to move on.

1. If you are apologizing and you do not mean it, everybody can tell. Effective apologizing isn’t a “tip” you can use to twist your actions and acquire forgiveness without remorse. You need to mean it.
Not what you feel sorry about, but what hurt the other person or people involved the most. “I’m sorry I forgot to call and say I’d be late” is a not as effective apology than “I’m sorry I was not respectful of your time.”

Do not make excuses. If you did it, own it. Even if there are real mitigating reasons or circumstances, now is probably not the time to bring them up, or if you have to, you then need to return to what you did and reiterate your obligation: “I shouldn’t ever lie to you.”
2. Even when you don’t believe your actions “should” provoke the reactions they do, this is a significant step.

Emotional consequences. “I know I make you frustrated with me.” “I didn’t mean to make you worry.” “I can tell you’re really angry at me right now.”
Other consequences. “I know you’re waiting.” “I know when I lie to you it makes it hard for you to trust me.”
3. Make it simpler. Certainly, this is easier for some transgressions than others. A few things you can, in actuality, fix after the fact, and then the apology serves only to deal with the fact that they occurred in the first place. Some things you can never fix. What is important is that you do what you can to try. A focus on preventing your mistake from happening in future is frequently helpful, in addition to other fix-it efforts.

Start with what you’ve done or can do. “I have thought of many options that would go part-way toward fixing the circumstance, and here they are.” “What can I do to help recover your trust?” “Can you think of something I can do to make sure this doesn’t happen again?” “Was there a better way I could have said that?”
Those are the three most basic measures. Once you’ve got those, you can improvise somewhat more, and negotiate, explain, or dialogue as well as your apology, using the exact same basic structure.

“I’m sorry I have made such a mess of this. I can see that it is making you miserable, but once I made my decisions I wasn’t aware of some really important facts. Now that I understand, I will make better decisions; let’s work on our communication to be sure it doesn’t happen again.”
“I am sorry I did that. I didn’t know it would make you so angry, and I apologize. But I am not sure I understand why you are so angry. Can we talk about this a bit more so I can keep from doing that inadvertently in future?”
“I know you feel terrible when I do so, and I do not want to make you feel terrible. This is really important to me. How do we compromise?”
As long as you’re still taking responsibility, acknowledging the consequences of your actions, and trying to make it simpler, you still need to be able to craft an effective apology.

My suggestion to you is to apologize fast and totally as soon as you are aware that you have offended or hurt the other person. Most people will forgive you instantly because they care about you and value the relationship. They just had to have their hurt or offended feelings validated. Others may need to have a bit of a discussion to be certain that their feelings are heard and validated. You owe them this without bothering them to defend yourself or getting angry. However, sometimes you run across a person who just refuses to accept your apology. That is their right. If the offense you have committed crosses their bottom line then they may decide that a future relationship with you isn’t for them.

Remember, an apology does not just sweep everything under the carpet or turn the clock back as if nothing happened. It will, however, acknowledge the wrong-doing and it will show that you do see the impact it had on the other person. Even if they’re not able to accept your apology now doesn’t necessarily mean they won’t be able to at a later time. Even if you think that your apology won’t be accepted, apologize anyway. You’ll be a better person for it.

She’s passionate and uniquely qualified to help her clients in discovering personal roadblocks to live an empowered life on purpose. She founded a non-profit foundation for unwed pregnant adolescents and battered women and children. She believes strongly in the doctrine that we experience situations in life to learn and grow strength from, so that we can then help someone else that follows. Giving back is very important to her. When she’s not coaching or writing she enjoys spending time with her 4 children and 3 grandchildren, traveling, cooking, sky diving and scuba diving.

Should You Have An Engagement Party?

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Engagement parties used to be pretty well restricted to conventional ideas only but nowadays, even though the traditional ideas still are observed, engagement parties come in all different varieties. There are no limitations anymore and your participation plans are limited only to your imagination and some other sensible limits of the situation itself.

That having been said, the purpose of this article is to provide you with a framework around which you can formulate an engagement party program that suits you.

The larger the party the more detailed the celebration planning will be.

Let’s look at a number of the different things common to all engagement parties. First of all you have elements of timing and scheduling.

Most engaged couples will have an idea when they are getting married and that does have some effect on the engagement party…e.g.. If the wedding is very near, it’s probably not wise to have a big engagement party because of the expense of two large events so close together.

Another aspect of time is whether or not you’ll want to send invitations or simply invite people via email or private invitation. Should you use printed invitations it gives you the chance to specify R.S.V.P.. .or not.

Should you use engagement party invitations then you have the option of different styles of printing. You can use traditional style invitations or opt for a more modern creative layout.

Another reason to begin planning early and send invitations early is that it’ll give invitees time to make plans to attend. Some people schedule their lives very closely and may need the extra time to schedule.

When it comes to the ‘goings-on’ at the party itself, there you’ve got two streets. . Do you want games? If so, who plans them? Do you want to have dancing? If so….who’s doing the sound system. . .and who’s going to offer the music? Are you going to have some kind of entertainment? And if so….what is it, what is the cost, and who is going to arrange it?

Another element to consider in engagement party ideas is photographs and who chooses them. Most people nowadays have little ‘pocket cameras’ but not everybody does. And even if they do they simply might forget to bring them so one option is to put out free disposable cameras for use of the attendees. An excess expense, yes, but one much appreciated too.

Another component usually overlooked is the idea of party security. You may not need security but if you do it will surely take some planning ahead. It’s possible that some of the bride and groom’s friends could provide it as well.

One choice to make relative to how big the party is, ‘is it going to be larger than the wedding party or smaller than the wedding party?’

You know you are going to have a party associated with both events but clearly somebody will be paying for the two parties. So….unless you have a money tree in your backyard, you might want to make a conscious decision on which party is going to be the biggest (and most expensive).

Whoever is planning the engagement party should delegate as much of their work as possible. Usually they’ll be assigning to people who will be coming to the party. Another option of course is to have the party professionally planned but of course that’s more expensive.

Irrespective of who does the planning, somebody representing the bride and groom should check the decorating plan. Some parties have unique themes that require unique decorations and. .

It’s also a smart idea to have a written plan of the numerous events that might will be occurring during the party. For example, is there going to be a special toast? When is it?

That has to be scheduled too.

Is it being catered or is someone from one of the attendees caring for it?

In the end, planning for an engagement party is not rocket science. How to plan a party is something that comes naturally to some people. For those who have any friends like that, you probably already know it. They will be the natural choice to plan yours.

It just requires a whole lot of attention to detail. Big, elaborate parties will have a lot of details and need more work and probably lots of delegation. Smaller, more intimate parties will not need as much work.

Party planning all starts with making the decision to have the celebration and then getting all of your tools together (personnel and finances) and getting it down on paper. Go out there, take is step by step, work through problems and bear in mind that someone probably did, or will do, the same thing for you.

Everyone wants to have a fun party, but it is easier said than done. Unless you can afford a party planner, then you would have to know how to plan a party [http://howtoplanaparty.net/] with the right ingredients to create the ideal party recipe

Can You Have Jambalaya At Your Wedding?

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Destination weddings are becoming more and more popular as people seek unique new choices rather than typical, stale ceremonies. They can offer an exciting new background, amazing experiences, and the explanation for a vacation with all your loved ones nearby.

1 prime location for a ceremony that’s equal parts fun and romance is New Orleans, Louisiana. A wedding can be as unpredictable as Bourbon Street or as romantic as the plantation-style homes that line the streets.

The French Quarter

Filled with history, fables, and the stuff of legends, the French Quarter of New Orleans is among the most memorable locations to get a marriage ceremony or reception. Not only is it picturesque, roads lined with a few of the most unique architecture in the country, but there is plenty of alternatives for some authentic Louisiana-style catering and chances for a party that will trump all others.

Among the most popular wedding destinations is Jackson Square, a beautiful park in the center of the French Quarter. Afterwards, the most notorious party place is Bourbon Street where your guests can observe long into the evening.

The Music

There is nothing like the conventional, sensual jazz that characterizes Louisiana to add fire to your ceremony.

The Food

Let’s face it, although your guests are happy for you, what they are really most concerned about is-the food. Creole and Cajun cuisine is a special characteristic of traditional Louisiana cuisine. Much of the food is heavily influenced by French cooking as well as the local environment and ingredients.

The Swamp

Okay, so using a New Orleans wedding in the swamp is not for everyone-but it is for some. It is home to some of the most majestic wildlife round such as the black bear, fearsome alligators, herons, and ibis. Louisiana swamps are unique and eerily beautiful. In fact, a lot of people decide to hold weddings with the swamps in view or shoot photos nearby.

The Honeymoon

You don’t have to venture far from Louisiana to enjoy your honeymoon. Use holding a wedding and explore the historical city and state. The nearby Baton Rouge and Mississippi River have lots to offer in terms of sightseeing and entertainment. New Orleans weddings can be as unique or traditional as you want. There’s something in the city for everyone and your guests are sure to be pleased with all of the choices available to them.

Do You Know How To Recycle?

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Reduce, Reuse, Recycle is a mantra adopted by many. The benefits of recycling are many, yet based on the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), only 34.5 percent of what Americans shed gets recycled. What’s more, many people who regularly recycle might be unaware that they are making mistakes. Are you recycling correctly? Read on to learn what you might be doing wrong and how to become a recycling pro.

Mistake #1: Believing something Can’t be recycled

Lots of men and women throw things from the trash that can and must be recycled or upcycled. With a little bit of exploring, you can drop certain household item at recycling facilities, arrange to have your items picked up, or contribute them. Crayons, by way of example, can be donated to needy children, children’s hospitals, or delivered to the National Crayon Recycle Program. According to GreenAmerica.org, these are just a few of the common items that should be recycled and kept away from landfills:

Appliances
Mattresses
Corks
Ink Cartridges
Aluminum Foil/pie plates/trays
Crayons
Holiday Lights
Water filters
For a complete list of items which can be recycled and how to recycle them, see search.earth911.com.

Mistake #2: Tossing bottle caps in the trash

Until recently, we were instructed to remove all bottle caps from bottles before recycling. Caps from common household products, such as water and soda bottles are often made from polypropylene plastic (marked by the number 5 on containers) and lots of recycling facilities didn’t have the proper equipment to recycle them. Improved recycling technology now makes it possible to recycle whole bottles – caps and all. Some – not all – facilities throughout Connecticut accept bottle caps. Check with your local recycling facility for more information.

The cardboard box your pizza comes in is recyclable – if it is clean. Boxes coated with oil stains and stuck-on cheese makes a mess of the recycling process. Unlike plastics and glass (which uses heat throughout the recycling process) cardboard uses water to break down the fibers into a pulp. The oils released during the process ends up destroying the quality of batch that is being made into new paper and cardboard. Before putting your favorite pizza takeout box in the recycle bin cut or trim greasy spots.

Mistake #4: Recycling plastic shopping bags

Sure they’re made from plastic, but plastic shopping bags are notorious for getting caught in the automated sorting machines at recycling facilities. Once thought to be utilitarian, plastic bags are damaging the environment and recycling center equipment! Many grocery and retail stores have bins to collect plastic bags.

According to the Connecticut Department of Energy & Environmental Protection (DEEP), shredded paper is just as bad for recycling equipment as plastic shopping bags. That’s because those very small shreds of newspaper can clog up the machines and get mixed in and tangled with other recyclables. DEEP suggest shredding documents only when absolutely necessary. In case you have shredded paper to get rid of, consider turning it into mulch. Since wood-based paper is biodegradable, it is going to mix in nicely with your compost pile.

Mistake #6: All plastics aren’t created equal

The numbers on the bottom of your plastic containers represent the sort of material used and are a guide as to whether you can toss them in your house recycling bin. The following is a list of the common types of plastic and Whether they can be recycled:

Number 1: polyethylene terephthalate; containers made from this substance include soda bottles, water bottles, and peanut butter containers. Plastics marked number 1 can be set in your curbside recycling bin.
Number 2: high density polyethylene; milk jugs, fruit juice bottles, and shampoo/conditioner bottles are normally made from this substance. Number 2 plastics can be put in your curbside recycling bin.
Number 3: vinyl or PVC; containers made from this substance include detergent bottles, window cleaner bottles, and vinyl siding. Number 3 plastics are not picked up as part of your curbside recycling. Number 4 plastics are usually not recycled through at-home curbside pick-up. Some laundry bags and shopping bags can be returned to the initial location of business. These plastics are sometimes recycled; ask your neighborhood recycling center.
Number 6: polystyrene; egg cartons and disposable cups and plates are made from polystyrene. Not all curbside recycling accepts number 6 plastics; consult the local recycling facility.
Number 7: miscellaneous substances: sunglasses, DVDs, and 5-gallon water bottles are made from number 7 miscellaneous plastics. These plastics are usually not picked up as part of your curbside recycling.

Who Was Kurt Vonnegut?

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Kurt Vonnegut is an American writer-famous for his novel-Slaughter House. He belongs to the creation of modern novelists.

Where We Live
From the story ‘where we live’, the writer introduces us to the rustic village named Cod Bay. There’s an old library there and a salesman tells the librarian that the Britannica volume is worn out, an old one belonging to the age of 1938. He urges them to buy a new one.

Harrison Bergson
Harrison Bergson is a writing piece about two people watching television-Hazel and her father Harry. Bergson had been out of prison. The people in the narrative are very emotional and get to talk about the mundane things of life.

Who am I this time?
The writer must take up the role of a theater manager. He discusses with the actors about real life situations which they could adapt in the play. The language that is used is the one of minimalism.

Welcome to the Monkey House
There is a debate about birth control and ethical suicide as the population of earth is burgeoning. The writ-up is highly exaggerated and too difficult to believe.

Long walk to forever
In this article there is a description of a man and woman who had grown up together. They later meet and the guy who is in the army comes to know that the woman is getting married. They have a walk and sort out issues and become reunited as a happy couple.

The Foster Portfolio
From the Foster Portfolio, the protagonist is an avid stock broker and he strikes a deal with a wealthy buyer named Henry. He is persuasive and convincing and he strikes a ton of a bargain.

Miss Temptation
Miss temptation is a description of a voluptuous lady Susana. There are many lechers who stalk her. The story describes the beauty of the woman in ironic humor.

All the King’s Horses
The enemy’s lieutenant engages in a sadistic conversation. He has obtained an inflated ego and hatred for the Yankees.

Tom Edison’s shaggy dog is a writing that focuses on a Labrador. The dog is sensitive and intelligent as well as the dog constantly hangs his wet nose on the owner’s ankles. The narrator believes that the puppy had taught him a trick or two about casting winning lots from the stock market.
New Dictionary
In the New Dictionary, the author narrates his fascination about searching for new words in the lexicon. Dirty words are a cure for the writer, a surreal divine forest.

Next Door
Next door is meat that refers to a wall separating the dwellings of two families. There is a meek description of family life.

More Stately Mansions
More Stately mansions are a frigid narrative about the life of an aristocratic folks. There’s a whole lot of telling about the dwellings in the mansion, its decorations, and its furniture. One can’t be too impressed with the writing.

The Hyannis Port Story
The Hyannis Port Story is a literature in which the protagonist experiences a Commodore. Daily life is thumbed in vigorous prose.

DP
DP is a moving narrative that refers to an orphanage run by nuns. The kids there come from all nationalities. Many of the children are going through an identity crises. They feel the loss of being abandoned by their own parents.

From the Barn House Effect, the writer describes the forces of the mind which he defines as dynamo-psychism. The powers of the mind like clairvoyance, telepathy and exist as a hypothetical conjecture.

You Don’t Want To Miss these Books!

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Hree novels have significantly made my life better as a young woman now. After trying nearly every birth control (with success I might add), but wanting to serve my body better than to make it believe it is already pregnant through hormones for at least 6 years, I found the perfect birth control method and I can not believe it is not taught to women across the nation on a regular basis. It’s free and effective. It is fertility charting. The next two are pills to swallow because they’re about money and men, two subjects some of us women can’t seem to seduce. Tell-it-like-it-is authors quickly demystify these two topics and provide you the wisdom to learn from your history and move beyond where you have been.

Taking Charge of Your Fertility, The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health by Toni Weschler

Knowing your own body through fertility charting can help you avoid pregnancy, encourage pregnancy, detect problems early and potentially solve them, and inform you when your periods will come so you can plan around them if they affect you badly. This information has been lost to the shift in popularity towards hormonal birth control procedures, but remains one of the best, if not best of them all! For those many women who have been trying to conceive without success, clues to what is happening very well could be inside your graph. This book is cleverly written half toward those preventing and also the past half of those trying to conceive, hence the name Taking Charge Of Your Fertility in favor of what you need. In a time spiritual communities are the only teaching organizations of the method, this book enables a solitary person to relearn sex education, the science behind your body’s breeding, and a method that takes all of the natural family planning practices into account for the most accurate details. As a method, it’s just as effective as most hormonal birth control methods when used properly and as a publication, you won’t have any excuse for not using it correctly! In friendly language, the book is a great reference to keep on your plate even after you have learned to chart.

We can’t pretend that girls and money are equivalent to that of men and money. Women as a sex are given much less information regarding money than men are in their lifetimes. This is due to a long history of women not earning their own money and wasn’t that long ago. Women, even after they have entered the workplace and even defeated many of fields, have different attitudes about money than men. Liz Perle in her book Money, A Memoir fully explains our story to us. What happened to our relationships, economy, personal aspirations and feelings when girls were permitted to work? She explains how we are conditioned differently than men and gives us the wisdom we probably missed out on, but our brother didn’t. This book is just the adjustment needed to tackle financial goals and learn more responsibility regarding the topic. It’s not as feminist as it sounds. It’s a true side of the background of our market written from a female perspective that is not told often enough. Being in the know of the info can change the trajectory of your life.

Too many otherwise smart women are making excuses for men’s behaviour that clearly shows they are just not that into you! Greg and Liz describe men aren’t complicated, but seldom have the huevos to tell a woman straight that they don’t feel the same way. In a Dear Abby type platform, women’s letters fill the pages of this book telling stories we have at least heard or told ourselves, and ask the same questions we’ve asked ourselves, our friends, and God. The response, bluntly, is usually “he’s just not that into you”. It will make you re-think your whole life and want to get a copy for a friend! Getting the truth bomb out of Greg, a man unafraid, liberates you from ever tolerating less than honesty or admiration again. Every woman who has to suffer dating on earth today has got to receive their ringless hands a copy of the book!

Can You Be A Fire Investigator?

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Part detective, scientist, engineer, and law enforcer, the fire investigator represents the collusion of multiple careers rolled into one. It is the fire investigator who must explore, determine, and document the origin and cause of the fire, establish what human actions were responsible for it, then bring authoritative testimony to the court to win a conviction in cases of arson.

“You have to be conscientious and have a mind that likes to figure things out. You really can not take shortcuts. You must take your own photos, collect the evidence, do follow up investigations. In cases of incendiary fires, you need to discover the criminal.”

Although many folks use the terms “fire investigator” and “arson investigator” interchangeably, they are not one and the same, says Special Agent Steve Carman, CFI at the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms (ATF) Sacramento field office. An arson investigator will attempt to ascertain who’s responsible for setting a fire; a fire investigator will attempt to ascertain the cause and origin of a fire. Most of the time, fire investigators are also arson investigators, says Agent Carman, who had been an ATF arson investigator for four years before becoming a fire investigator and serving on ATF’s Western National Response Team for nine decades. “Frequently arson investigators might be a police officer of ATF agent who doesn’t have the background to execute a fire investigation – an area that is becoming increasingly grounded in the science and engineering of fire behavior,” says Special Agent Carman. The job of fire investigation is complicated, challenging and intriguing – and demands a wide range of skills to perform it efficiently.

“A background in mechanical, civil, electrical, and even chemical engineering plays a big role,” states Robert Duval, a senior fire investigator with the National Fire Protection Association. “You are taking a look at something which was destroyed and you need to be able to put it back together again either in your mind or physically to ascertain the origin and cause. Technical training plays a role in determining lots of the factors in terms of fire behavior and the way it attacked the structure you are considering, whether it be an appliance, piece of equipment, or construction.”

This technical aspect of the job requires knowledge of building materials and construction and the effects of fire upon those materials. Evidence preservation procedures, the effects of fire suppression, fire behaviour and burn patterns are also significant technical aspects. Search techniques also have to be learned so that fire cause signs and ignition sources are preserved during the investigation.

Yet it is important not to become entangled in the technical facets of the investigation at the expense of the individual element, indicates fire investigator Paul Zipper, who works in the Office of the State Fire Marshall in Massachusetts. “I have made 300 to 400 arrests of those who have set fires. Normally, there’s a fight, an incident, and it’s the interviewing that will tell you what happened. That’s how you solve cases.”

Consider two separate fires, both originating at a wastebasket under a sink. In the first, someone emptied an ashtray to the can, sparking a fire from burning ash. In the second, someone lit a match and threw it into the trashcan in hopes of collecting an insurance claim from damages. “Both fires originated in a garbage can,” says Zipper. “But I challenge anybody to tell me the way that fire was started. If you can interview well and learn to read people, and combine that with diagramming, investigation, photography, and report writing, you will be a good fire investigator.”

In the state of New York, investigators are fire marshals who are full driven police officers (some “Fire Marshals” are fire support personnel who have received police training and are sworn as “peace officers”). In Connecticut, “local fire marshals” are usually members of local fire departments or work under the municipal government and get some basic training on code enforcement and source and cause, but who don’t have any law enforcement powers in any respect! Who is a “fire marshal” may vary too much from one spot to the next to make any blanket statement. There are local (FD or PD), state (State Fire Marshals) and federal (Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms) fire investigators. In New England and a number of different nations, say police officers function as fire investigators on behalf of the Office of the State Fire Marshal. Since fire investigators must follow due process of law in issues like collecting evidence, search and seizure, interrogation, and court testimony, police or criminal justice training is very helpful.

How To Get There

Fire investigators may operate in either the public or private sector. Usually, those in the public sector are employed by municipalities, police or fire departments and state and federal agencies. Those working in the private sector might be used by insurance companies, attorneys, or private source and cause companies, or organizations such as the National Fire Protection Association. In some states, the local fire chief has jurisdiction over the fire ground and is ultimately responsible for determining the origin and cause of a fire, ” says Robert Corry, fire evaluation specialist at American Re-Insurance Company. There are 26,354 fire departments in america. The fire chief may have a fire investigator on staff. However, in some smaller communities, it may be the chief himself. Based on the severity of the case, the fire chief or investigator may call in more experienced county, state or federal investigators. “A prudent investigator won’t attempt to work alone but will instead use a team approach,” Corry says.

The career path for getting a fire investigator might be as complex and varied as the job itself. Fire investigators working in the public sector typically come up through the ranks, starting out as employees or volunteers within police or fire departments, gaining experience in various aspects of fire behavior in addition to criminal law, and sometimes in their spare time, pursuing formal education and training. At the national level, the ATF employs approximately 80 certified fire investigators that are generally called in to help with local and state investigations of high fire scenes. ATF investigators first serve as ATF special agents, and then are chosen to undergo a rigorous two-year training program in fire investigation.

Those seeking employment in the private sector may come in from the public sector, or they may undertake an academic curriculum on fire engineering or science, such as those offered by the University of New Haven, University of Maryland, Oklahoma State, or Worcester Polytechnic Institute. If you are in college now, technology, forensics, and photography classes are all useful. After graduating, you may search for job openings within insurance or investigative firms at the entry level, and then try to work your way up. Or you could consider volunteering at your local firehouse to get a foothold in the public sector.

Virtually every fire investigator will tell you to become active in as many professional associations as possible. Trooper Horgan says researchers in his nation usually join professional organizations and then start to visit some of the training provided by police departments on fundamental arson investigation, attend the National Fire Academy’s two-week training program in Maryland, and begin trying to build up credentials and a resume. Chris Porreca, group manager of the Arson Explosives Group for the Boston field branch of ATF agrees that it requires a high level of self-motivation to pursue a career in fire investigation. “We ask candidates if they have worked fire scenes, signed up and gone to conferences on the local, national and state level, and taken the initiative to be a state certified fire investigator (CFI) to gain experience and knowledge,” he says. “It requires a lot of long hours and a lot of weekends to do your job, and then to do this too.”
While the livelihood has always been challenging, it has become increasingly so in recent decades. “The arsonist is getting more sophisticated,” says Trooper Horgan. “More fires are being set up to try to fool the investigators, to look accidental when they’re intentional. This makes our task that much harder and makes you’ve got to be an even more skillful investigator to resolve the case.”